Tag: pathology

Knowing the Alienators

Most of the stories of alienated mothers are strikingly similar. The alienators can seem very similar, as if all of us alienated mothers were married to the same alienator. Pathological traits can look very similar and predictable.

Alienation is the vengeful outcome of disordered abusers and is a continuation of abuse that was already occurring in other ways and other levels – physical, mental, emotional, psychological, sexual and spiritual.

Alienation isn’t an accidental occurrence because a parent occasionally stated angry words about the other parent. It is deliberate, systematic, methodical programming using gaslighting to manipulate and brainwash, such as with a cult.

There is not much that can be done with the disordered as they are not typically looking to change what they are fine with and works for them to get what they want.

Despite our similar stories, we mothers are unique with various differences, as are our children. Some seem to be more susceptible to alienation than others.

Alienators have a combination of Cluster B disorders. Only the targeted parents will know the true combination from experience since alienators will not be tested. Out of the Fog lists and describes the Cluster B disorders.

But we can be educated for self-protection and to protect our children. Perhaps as awareness and understanding expands on pathology and the outcome of alienation, mental health and regulations in the legal system can also evolve to protect victims of alienators.

Parental Alienators are Sadistic

Sadism is behind parental alienation. Alienators enjoy bringing harm and pain to the target parent. What better way to bring pain, suffering and harm to a target parent than to take away her child who she is devoted to? And to even get societal and court approval to continue and advance their abuse? Jackpot.

The alienator’s primary motive is to cause harm to the target parent. Sadism is a root of parental alienation. It includes a lack of empathy and consciousness. It is a deliberate ongoing, destructive long term pervasive pattern and planned approach by an abuser intent on harming.

Parental alienation is not the result of a protective parent struggling to protect her child from an abuser and accidentally stating true accounts of concerning pathological traits from the abuser, such as continuous lying or accounts of true abuse.

Failed attempts at legitimate, necessary protection is not parental alienation, but a loving, caring parent struggling to protect her child. Such unfortunate, traumatic struggles are often the result when her family court has failed her and her child by not protecting them. Family court has likely failed again in looking out for the best interests of the children, as its mission hypocritically states.

Alienators know they are harming the target parent and possibly the child, but they don’t care about their child. Without empathy and consciousness, they don’t care about anyone but themselves and their twisted, controlling objectives.

The kids become collateral damage to the alienator in his focused intent to harm his target. He is indifferent at best to the irrelevant kids he is using to abuse by proxy. The kids are tools to be used as pawns for his destructive objective.

Parental alienation is the ultimate abuse to keep abusing and controlling the target. It makes alienators feel powerful and significant to bring harm and pain to someone who got away from them.

Alienators know the target parent loves and is devoted to their child(ren). What better way to punish her for leaving than to take her child away? Furthermore, she is shamed by society and receives no support. This is just icing on the cake of harm for the sadistic alienator.

Until court understands and cares about pathology (including a combination of Cluster B disorders NPD, BPD, ASPD – “sociopathy”), abuse and trauma, a struggling protective parent is unfortunately the only way to be when stuck with an alienator taking our child from us.